MARRIED TO A CHEATING MAN? You're STUCK if you have kids but not dead in the water
Dorothy Parker, a 1920's wit, wrote:
"Woman wants monogamy
man delights in novelty
love is woman's moon and sun
man has other forms of fun
woman lives but in her lord
count to ten and man is bored
With this the gist and sum of it,
what earthly good can come of it??"
Way I see it, earth puts us here in matter, we are soulular spirit, atomic essence of God, free, perfect, uncontaminated and authentic. But down HERE on earth, EDEN or Maya or the PHYSICAL DOMAIN is dualistic, animal magnetism lords over us. Woman is tempted to buy into a flashy plumage man. Man is tempted TO MOVE ALL OVER. Maya pollenizing as he goes wandering. Marriage is not his style. Hello goodbye IS.
Some women nail a naive guy but after marriage, woman gets comfy and believes her own press notices. Sits around on her duff. She sinks into the goose down in even the most fragile, negligible relationship! Man finds lacks, he goes after thrills on the outside of the marriage like a man wandering the desert in thirst.
Humans succumb to the need for drink: sensation, physical temptation. Livelier thrills. The hungry mind cooperates. The wisdom within may sense danger. The woman seeing a bored husband is trapped as the cave is warm. The children are protected so there's the temptation to just sit. To stay in a relationship with hairline fractures. STUCK! Self medicate with some new habit. For women, shopping and TV. Boring cafe provokes MEN to hunt down younger partners.
He doesn't love me the way I love him.
If this has happened to you, WHAT is required is just the ability to see. NOT TO DO. BUT TO SEE. See what's going on. Without ego, without 'reacting.' Stay calm. Instinctual wisdom will kick in and you will start to build thinking based on what you SEE. No need to scream, no need to try to reform him, or threaten him or get angry, or fight or do irrational divorces, stranding the kids in a bad school district with no chance of college. Build on what you have. Be grateful for what you 'attracted' as that's what is the sum total of your past. You picked him for a lesson. Now you are in school. That home, that marriage, your behavior is school. Here you will learn something that gives mastery so be upbeat and try to ENVISION a new better tomorrow and God will BUILD you a new tomorrow. Maybe today.
And hey, as you see that a lot of women are STUCK, picked the wrong dude, the husband's a dud, lots of children depend on this dud dude and Mommy of course has no career or income.......do not get INTO a relationship with hairline fractures in the first place. Life is made of choices. Each choice has built into it, obvious signs of HARMONY or DISHARMONY. When I'm at a party and I see an antique chair that's barely standing? I don't know about you but I don't sit down in it!
But if you did and there are kids and he's not rich enough to afford two houses, two kitchens, two utility bills, two cars, and soon enough two WIVES... do the online HOW TO TOUCH TYPE website then go to paralegal training right now. Six months and you will be earning a fortune, enough to raise your children alone. Highest earnings in law without a law degree. Just write the student loan for around Fifteen grand at UCLA for a fun six month school room. Do it because the lied-to wife schoolroom is tolerable only for a few serene yogamaster vegans with nerves of steel, the type of girl who can open the door at 8pm when he comes home late with a big, loving smile on her face. The type of gal who can forgive him for being a man and wait until kids are in college to lose the chump. Patience is required. A tight upper lip. Philosophy. Buddhism. Smarts. Another decade of time. BUT if you have balls of steel, use your last six months with him to become a paralegal. Then be your own divorce lawyer. And GO FREE!
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