GIVING AND TAKING, (the RULES ON)

Recently I sent a fingernail horoscope reading to an American freelance writer girl doing a story on a male rockstar in England. She was off to London in a few days but emailed me back;  "thank you thank you, what do I owe you?" I wrote her back. "That little drib? Honey, YOU OWE ME NOTHING! I did it for fun."

She showed amazement and I told her something that I  stumbled upon in life. It is a law of business. A LAW OF REALITY that you can recall the rest of your life.

When you're creatively on fire and happy and doing fascinating, audacious things, like she was -- everyone around you wants to join in. That's natural. This girl was doing a story on a rock star in London. She was in bliss. Somebody like me hears what she's up to, is inspired to add something, does a little favor.

EVEN if they are a business person and DO THAT EXACT thing for biz, they did it this time, out of elan.

If you are wandering through life with zest, people will want to give you a gift, attention, time. TAKE their gift. Thank them, Kiss them on the cheek. You may suspect it's a favor, you can even offer to pay them, but if you get the vibe they did it out of excitement, don't  REACH INTO YOUR POCKET. Just say 'I love it, it's accurate, it's great and you helped me. Do I owe you anything?" They'll say no as that's payment enough. They see you're worthy of helping. Now, if you are also a person who is forwarding the 'action' like an activist, charity worker, then folks really want to help you! Law of nature.

Women in business should act like WOMEN, show that gratitude they feel. It's plenty. They do not always have to PAY the fee for professional help, as they know men do. YOU ARE A GIRL. Girls don't pay money UNLESS they ask for some serious BIG work to be done and contract same.

But when you're a gal on fire, doing exciting business things, just let people's admiration of you stand, their helpful favors TO you BE. Smile, say thank you with real joy. You're a girl. PEOPLE GIVE to GIRLS. It's hormonal! So be a girl and learn to take! It's the lack of real men as fathers that have created girls who do not know how to take!

Now on another level, the man/woman interacting level, a corollary rule about LAWS OF Give and Take is this: if you are a GIRL..... learn to ASK for things sweetly, as well as TAKE.  If you had a loving daddy, you'd have learned years ago to ask for stuff.

STUPID WOMEN GIVE. SMART WOMEN TAKE. MEN feel good giving. And they have no gear called gratitude. They feel emasculated by our giving to THEM, as if we knew they were losers and needed help. Or maybe that they had to be bribed. WOMEN DO not feel that way at all, so gals don't know this! Women continually think they can provoke gratitude in a man. They give gifts at birthdays. They buy tickets to functions so the two of them can go. THEY LEND MONEY at times. NO NO! If you want to waste your good money, go give raw steak to a tiger out on the savannah. He'll be more grateful and remember you better than a man ever did!

MEN despise the women who give to them. Men literally have no gratitude. You have shown him that he's a loser cause he needed that money, dinner, tickets, car, etc. He's a loser and YOU KNOW it. You had to come up with money, so you knew he didn't have any.

The females with kindest hearts, the greatest (on the spiritual level) women attempt to give to everyone. They're like border collies, or cocker spaniels. Let me give you my love, Slurp slurp.  NNNNNNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOO ! STOP IT. A smart woman TAKES. DUMB women give. To men that is. And it drives the man away faster than anything.

I'd love to do a movie script, the gal version of DUMB AND DUMBER. Be certain that in it, girls lend guys money, buy them books, theatre tickets and pay for dinner and that the fellow feels like something stuck to the heel of a shoe but he takes it every time. And then runs to another woman to whom he has to give, give give and he loves every second of it.