THE VILLAGE OUTCAST NEED NOT BE DOWNCAST!
A young man, ex neighbor, friend to my sons, moved from Los Angeles to Upper New York state, but he's online so we still talked, occasionally. He confided that he felt people in the Small town where he lived didn't like him and were weirdly back country, primitives. Angry, suspicious people and he felt that he needed to move on.
I wrote him. "Don't move on too fast and lose this great opportunity. Enjoy and explore this situation. Village suspicion is a very interesting problem and for you, a real challenge. You told me that these small town New England folks suspect you, judge you, look down on you or just dislike you. YOU THINK. The mental weather, the vibes 'out there' seem to have accidentally soured.And as you tell me, the cops are onto you and so are the killer criminals.
Wow, what do we do for all these stormy conditions? As you are a high ole human, elegant, smart... (in spite of being a card carrying schizophrenic with paranoid delusions). You are the final branch, twig and flower on a billion year long tree of EVOLUTION. So now, you gotta initiate an attempt to do the spade work, the research, detective work for the REST OF US and discover or find the MODEL BEHAVIOR THAT TURNS PUBLIC OPINION AROUND. I want you to come up with socializing short cuts, make friends. Have a few laughs with your new friends. Learn from them.
At that point, whether you stay in that village or move to some more open climate is not important, what is important is that then you teach the TURNAROUND method. What I've discovered so far is:
WHAT TO DO IF THEY SUSPECT YOU OF nasty STUFF cuz they really don't know and they're projecting their own 'garbage' over you. OK, they don't KNOW so they only suspect.
a.) Do things that show up as saintly. Working with small children no longer works in our society as they SUSPECT THAT WORSE than anything.
b.) pick up trash in park.
c.) get a brigade of teens to do same, or do public fence and wall painting somewhere. I know you don't have graffiti, but some old building? Like an ad hoc vintage restoration project?An alley somewhere?
c.) volunteer work at the park. Teach volley ball, buy a new net Spalding ball and give it to the park and rec director. Get the kids to do trash pick-up for five minutes each.
IF THEY JUDGE YOU :
a.) cut your hair regularly. (he has a shock of black, smooth hair down to his collar).
b.) improve your posture. That hunch? Only cuz you aren't doing full stretches; go figure, his MOM was a great yogini with Yogi Bhajan.
c.) Get a volunteer job at the library, to come in after school when kids are there. Wear a suit and tie or at least freshly ironed sports shirt and get all kids interested in loftier books. Talk up the great ones. You may have to read for a bit to find your own favorites.
If THEY LOOK DOWN ON YOU:
a.) Read the Wall Street Journal at coffee shop. Ole farts will come These guys are great. They are smart, know tons of real history they never downloaded to their own grandkids. They were all in Nam or WWII. They are master psychologists. Other things to discuss might be business, trends, investment. http://www.masterjules.net/namoil.htm
REALLY bone up . http://home.earthlink.net/~astrology/invest.htm
These are free online schools for stock investing knowledge. I checked out all those urls, made a list. FUN READING. You instantly make pals with men of all ages, when this is your rap.
b.) learn about that phenomena called the "breathing" of the stock market, monitoring it intuitively, which you are good at. For instance, STOCK ups and downs relate to news headlines. Just yesterday MARKET took a big 300 point surge up after many surges down. Haven't a clue myself why this happened. Discussing this 'breathing' at Starbucks with ole farts is a great pastime. They invite you to their parties, you meet their daughters. These guys talk you up to the women folk saying you're a real brain.
IF THEY JUST OUTRIGHT DISLIKE YOU.
a.) They won't if you're Charlie Charming crossed with Jesus! Crossed with BILL GATES. One by one, pick off the real haters. Find them at work. You shower them with praise, acknowledgement, pos-quips, joy juice which can be jokes, celeb gossip, opinions and viewpoint which I know you don't do often as it's so BS but...do it now. MIRROR them like a golden mirror where they look better than they are. Even if they're sulky, spitting nails, clinging to their attitude, be bright mirror. Salute them gaily, walk off.
b.) Then, give them some time. LET THEM digest and process you. They will. Most probably they will think about you next time they're in the village cafe or park & wonder where you are and eventually be glad to see you and reconsider. They will come up a notch. Next time you meet them, there's an upgrade. Work them again. By the time a few accidental meetings go by, they will be glad-rapping you to the village.
c.) Give Holistic massages to ancient people in the park, shoulders, base of brain is about all you can do in a park. NOBODY turns you down once they feel the juice climb to the brain. Once you say 'my Mom was a master yoga practitioner. I grew up with this." Go to OLD AGE HOME, give same massages for 5$ a piece. Or a tip if they want.
d). You have a car, do what I used to do. Hit bakeries at night, cooks would give me dozens of unsold loaves, Healthfood stores would give me dozens of milk/ yogurt. Small markets the rat-hole dog and cat kibble. I'd distribute them to single mothers, sleeping bums on park benches. But you could add geezers to the list.
THIS applying yourself to the chore as if it were a challenge to get in charge IS A KIND OF HOMEWORK. Consciously doing this daily will lift your own self image with them, but more importantly, with YOURSELF as you see that YOU have your hands on the dials and levers of your life. There is no accidental occurrence 'out there.' You create the 'out there.' You are responsible for 'out there.'
The Out There will never crowd you uncomfortably again. You are in control.
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