SHORT AND SWEET, THE PERFECT COURTSHIP

HOW TO GET MARRIED.  If you were selling real estate, you'd paint the walls, hang new curtains,  shampoo the carpets, whitewash the facade, put spiffy little potted trees outside, flowering if possible. You'd scrub down the pathway to the house. You'd maybe freshly enamel the front door and polish the brass doorknob.

Be as assiduous when you are rigging yourself out to catch a hubby. Polish the damn doorknob in that brief marriageable time between 18 and 25. Make the merchandise appealing. Remove all prior fingerprints from the walls. Make things look fresh and pure even if they aren't.

The most important action of all is NEARLY NO ACTION. Stillness, You are basically very sweet. A soulular kind of girl. But your mind is your worst enemy. It encourages you to do or say things that make a ripple appear on a guy's radar and his brain reacts by thinking, 'oh-oh, she's weird.' He can't take that thought back.

The less you do or say, the more you come across as adorable. Being pure pink, he can attribute a ROSE stripe, draw it where he wants. He doesn't see this BRUISE colored stripe come up on his screen, hugely visible. He 'infers' a rose stripe. Just stay pure pink and he will adore you.

Think back on the last ten men you met and spent time with. All ten of them became friends and friends only because they moved back. They didn't allow themselves to be drawn forward in heartfelt attraction. You did or said something that automatically disqualified you for PERFECT LOVE.

So keep the canvas as blank as possible. Keep the front door pure white. Keep the contents of the house relatively unknown.

Think about it.--- COURTSHIP, as it was practiced in the good old days, accomplished all that. It kept the merchandise fresh, unspoiled, relatively unknown and sold the building! Such societal disciplines paid off. They made a woman happy for finding an enamored spouse as well as a loyal father for her children. It made a man very happy for finding an unusually amazing girl. A 'prize.'

In those days, courtship wasn't drawn out, or even intimate. It was a flash of a look which gave the girl a time to 'hold a pose' long enough to be viewed from all sides. The In-laws were breathing down her neck, so was the ardent swain but a girl only had  to hold that clean cut, enigmatic, smiling Ivory soap model image just long enough to get through the wedding and nail herself that loving husband. Then she could relax, let her belly out and be a relaxed wife. Then she could shoot from the hip, be candid, talk and put her foot in her mouth, the guy was married to her.

Once a girl became her man's merchandise, and he'd paid for her, and she'd had his children,there would be a firm and unbreakable emotional link set up, a suspension bridge of considerable strength over which two families could join. There'd be no surprises. No disenchantment. Civilization thrived.

All this occurred because the vendors (the girl's parents,) never allowed the prospective bridegroom to get too good a look at the bride. How could he? Intimacy was frowned upon. A guy who tried to get fresh would be shot. A girl who let him try could be stoned. Sapient adults had millennia ago figured out the law of the land. They knew what worked. They knew what got their daughters married and that set-up became the system.

If a husband seeking female were cross, foul mouthed, irritable or couldn't cook... he'd see none of that. If she were insanely jealous and would bridle with anger any time he looked at another girl, turning into a green eyed monster, he wouldn't see any of that. If she got fall down drunk and sloppy at parties, he never saw it. Nor would he see her tarted out flirting with fellows at a bar, barfing or passing out. Couldn't happen.

The average things that a man sees happen today with a modern woman during courtship never happened before in the history of the world. I'm not talking about his seeing your medicine cabinet, your toilet supplies your fragrant personal foam, your sanitary napkins, I'm talking about his seeing too well into your head!

Cut to the chase, today, girls are free to run around and do whatever they want. They don't live in small villages where they're in danger of being identified, recognized and KNOWN by others. Instead, they live in big cities where every social set is a fresh one. Give a girl enough string like that and she will surely hang herself. Freedom is not useful in the 'get married' business.

My point is. Paint the building pure white, landscape it with flowers, develop the pristine facade. Don't shoot from the hip and be a natural girl or a "tell all" girl. If you let it all hang out, men discover the termites in the building and walk away.

Men are very brainy. We under estimate their ability to size us up. God gave us grace. personify it. Don't let the grace slip. Avoid arrogance, vanity, inanity, insanity, jealousy and the 7 other deadly sins. Sloth, avarice. Don't get caught with your foibles hanging out. They really are not going to gain you his love. Your quirks, your little bodily variations are not so unique they're going to be beloved.

Do what the real estate vendor says. Shine up the front door, get the junk out of sight and sell the damn building.

The likely mistakes you make will be these:

1.) JEALOUSY
2.) PASSION that turns to neediness, 'more more more'.
3.) ANGER, resentment, quarrelsomeness.
4.) Pigging out
5.) Profligate spending.
6.) Laziness, improper house cleaning
7.) gossiping, know it all negative opinions. Mouth flapping. Bearing false witness. (running the other girl DOWN) Or his FRIENDS. OR his IDEAS.
8.) vanity, arrogance, bragging.

Commit any of these faux pax, do any of these things, you are telling him that you're a nutcase and he'll get it in his mind to leave. You can't wiggle off the act once it's committed. You can't justify any slip, post facto. Guys have eyes; guys remember what they saw. And they will leave.

So you really have to get your act together. You can't fake it. You can't just stand up tall and hide a big fat pigging out belly. A green eyed monster inhabiting your mind.Gossiping loosely, which shows mean spiritedness. You have to be a saint. Audrey Hepburn. Mother Teresa. Princess Diana. 

You may think you're made of steel and can pull all that elegance and sweetness off and maybe you can. But you cannot stretch this act over years of flagrant intimacy. The mask will slip. That is why courtship must be brief, fraught with separation, not togetherness. Like the greatest cheese, the holes are what makes it valuable. Courtship is a theatricale held in a theatre you can rent only for moments. Festive moments. It is not meant to be a long run tour, 24/7. That's the job of marriage, when committed wives and husbands serve one another. Not courting couples. So get that straight. Save yourself a lot of sequential monogamies occurring in courtship(s), broken hearts, lost time. PAINT THE FRONT DOOR, POLISH THE DOORKNOB & spray the air with roses then let potential buyers in for a few moments only. And nail that One, Special BUYER who will be happy owning your house. How is this Herculean task done? Read the LUCK IN LOVE TRAINING.
 
 

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