A
man wrote asking where the loving, interesting women were. First
he said, "I saw on your website that you ask "Where are the loving,
interesting men?" Hey, we are out here, but nobody seems to want
us. I've lived through FIVE decades and now am into my 60s and quite invisible
to the females of the world of any age. I have been alone through the summer
of love, the decadent 70s and 80s, the greedy 90s and the indescribable
2000s. I dress well, am tall, slim, muscular. I earn a good living but
I gave up going out or attempting to find romance or relationships years
ago. I know firsthand of which you write about --those poor lonely thirty
year old girls in big cities. If guys only seem to want Angelinas,
then the girls will not settle for less than Brads or Mels. There are very
few MOVIE STAR LOOKERS out there. I know that many men are idiotic Peter
Pans who numb themselves with booze and drugs and watch the Simpsons as
high entertainment, but there are many of us who do not. Many men and women
hit their 30s and decide there is something better out there. They abandon
their lovely kids for someone else or a pig in a poke. I know this, as
I am a teacher and see it all the time in families with kids of nine and
ten. What is the cause? I think you hit it squarely in your article : unrealistic
expectations arising from the powerful forces of popular culture. What
is the answer? Selflessness and duty to the community is a good start.
I answered: I'll bet that you go to bars and honkey tonk country music joints. Buy gals a lot of mimosas and drinks with umbrellas and still find no great women. Right? Well the ANSWER to that quandry is to stay out of bars and clubs. The really terrific gals are not THERE. Hit the early morning breakfast out spot. Hit the USED BOOK STORE where smart women go to buy l0 books for l0$ and not ONE book for 27$. Would you want to marry the ditz who spent 27$ on a single book? In addition, create a LIVING ROOM group. Use a friend's house, preferably a woman with a great living room. START A SINGLES PARTY at a LOCAL CAFE, once a month, sell tickets for 10$ each. Join garden clubs, friends of the library, start hobbies that involve literature, writing, philosophy, maybe a poetry club? Join the Muslim religion. GREAT WOMEN THERE, and all drowning in suppressive men! Go to CHURCH even if it's only just to find a wife. God won't be mad. He invented this whole mating dance thing. HIT ADULT HIGH SCHOOL, those classes in the computer rooms when the kids leave, they go 7-9 3 nites a week. I took sculpture there, PC's, art, sewing, many subjects. No, come to think of it, don't go to a sewing class. But an INVESTMENT class? Divorcees with lots of stocks? Do a REAL ESTATE club and find partners to buy 4 unit bldgs. Then, go into 10 unit, and you be the landlord to interview all those single women or single mothers looking to rent. Just watch out for 'it's not love, it's Stockholm Syndrome!'
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