I cannot believe this letter. MOSTLY men write me to utterly trash me for my BIG MONEY/ CHARITY/ BILLIONAIRE ideas about what young girls might do with their lives. THIS GUY thanks me! Reason of course, ...he's no bachelor who fears the meat supply might run off to the high rent side of the river! He is unselfishly thinking of the welfare of his teen aged daughter!
ANITA: Thank you so much for insightful and valuable website, luckinlove.com. I
have read many of the articles there, and followed all of the links I
have come across, and have been educated in very valuable ways - and I
am a man. Some of your ideas seem naturally applicable to me as a man,
and others I wonder how I might best take advantage of your thoughts to
further the worthwhile involvments in my life. Thank you again, for this
food for thought.
There is one small area where I have a question. You have posted an
article on how mothers can groom their daughters to marry a billionaire,
and while I am not strictly interested in grooming her to marry a
billionaire, I would like to raise her in such a way that she has the
ability to seek success and happiness in love and all of her life. But
also, I am her father - not her mother. My question is - what do you see
as being the areas where a father's role might diverge from that of the
mothers, but in a way to have the same impact and support that you
describe? I should say here, that I did not have the advantage of your
insight while learning about love and life for myself, and I did not
choose as wisely. My wife is not a pleasent person, she sees no silver
lining and is almost impossible to please and is mostly unhappy with
herself. And while I am not perfect either, I do try to support her
finding her own happiness and accomplishing in life what she wishes. My
wife is very critical of our daughter - once, when my daughter was asked
in private what she can do that makes her mother happy, she became very
sad and replied, "Nothing, there is nothing I can do to make my mom
happy." While I try to support my wife and accept her for who she is
today, I can not change the impact she is having on our daughter on a
daily basis.. But, what can I do to offset this and truely support and
nourish my daughter so that she may have what you are writing about. My
daughter is beautiful, receiving compliments daily on her physical
beauty and calm demeanor, her personality and intelligence.~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^
DEAR DAD! First, may I complement you on your acceptance of the concept of some kind of TRAINING FOR BEAUTIES to have luck in love. Most men write me scathing letters, damning the training to perdition because part of the SEMINAR has to do with marrying WELL and men feel another bitch is getting trained to bore a hole through his fly to get at his wallet.
The first way to have her be lucky in love and never know bitchery and whoring and selfishness is to MINIMIZE the problems that you have currently in LIVING WITH that WIFE! Grin and bear it. Pay the karma in this one, next lifetime you will gain your daughter's compassion and admiration and be given joy, and the karma is you will attract love and liberty later, maybe a lifetime later, a much better situation. This thought and belief will give you a laissez faire in dealing with an oddball wife in this lifetime.
Next, slip the crazy fraulein her healthfoods. Do the shopping and upgrade the chow. Read CHEAP HOLISTIC EATING TRICKS! And give her back massage, foot massage, neck massage, DAILY. Get her iridology done, reading iris of eye to see what glands are ceasing to produce hormones. The HOLISTIC ARCHIVE will train you to bring her back to health. Anyone could become a full time nature healer with nothing else but this archive. Just can't advertise as no license. Duhhhh. But word of mouth in this profession is fabulous. LIke wildfire.
In the day to day HARDSHIP, dealing with the limits of your current marital situation, REMEMBER, this whole lifetime is just a snap of the fingers, ditto this dysfunctional marriage. There are many lifetimes ahead for you. REBIRTH is certain. Even light hypnosis will reveal PAST LIVES to your mind's eye. I was regressed, it's easy. Get regressed by a trusted pal or by any hypnotherapist. Give them this article http://home.earthlink.net/~astrology/i_saw_them.htm is an article on this. "SEARCH FOR BRIDEY MURPHY" by Bernstein, buy this 1951 book used abebooks.com for one buck.
The trick here is to ADVANCE your daughter in two things. ONE is smarts about men. The second is developing herself, education wise to qualify to walk in BLUEBLOOD high society without giving her the sense that you are programming her. We don't want her PRIMED BY DAD hitting the streets and targeting a billionaire. A.) she'd fail. B.) Such undertakings corrupt us. c.) Your literal instructions might make her shrewd, cunning or might kick up waves of naked greed in her. (Kids can be programmed to do anything if they love a parent). SO you don't want to signal her that THIS IS THE DIRECTION. Dad says so. That's SO CRASS!
INSTEAD of trying to lay the LUCK IN LOVE TRAINING on her, which shouldn't come from a man, anyway, you do better work TALKING UP social issues at the dinner table. How Latin American weback immigrants were chased out of their countries by the CIA who organized, trained and RAN the death squads of every Latin country in a misguided attempt at stopping labor unions, calling unionism believing it to be COMMUNISM. The CIA TRAINED Latin death squads to kill every leftist. The Army extinguished entire villages in Guatemala, every man woman and baby, even dogs so they wouldn't bark and lead anyone to witness the genocide. GOOGLE the word "QUICHE" a province in Guatemala. Problem is, CIA/ Latin ARMY did it in dozens of countries.
This tidal wave of genocide was noticed by HOLLYWOOD. "SALVADOR" is a great film. Rent it.. The death squads of the Governments of every country down there murdered well over two million people... Even 'white countries' without INDIANS....like Argentina, CHILE (Rent "MISSING" with Lemmon, Spacek,) participated in this genocide, In Argentina, all student activists were murdered, their children were taken, adopted by military. There's an Argentinian film , Oscar nominated, "THE OFFICIAL STORY" on that subject, too. STATE OF SIEGE with Yves Montand. UNDER FIRE Nick Nolte, SALVADOR James Woods. I think Adventures of REMO WILLIAMS with Fred ward is a wonderful flick; sez a lot about the MILITARY/CIA and then THE PAcKAGE with tommy lee jones. wow. Murder of JFK is in that. EXECUTIVE ACTION very hard to find, Burt Lancaster. AND EVITA with Madonna, which shows how an actress marries a top politician and builds orphanages for the poor.
In these instructional ways, prepare her for greatness. Prod her mind to move beyond your town and the USA and to see the big picture, to understand why 12 million immigrants FLED their villages and came here as wetbacks. Making 300 million of us (next october, we get to that # then sez census bureau) and only 12 mil snuck in? If this happened in 1800 when there were a mil here, it would be like 12 IRISH MEN STOLE IN! AND in this case, it's no potato famine. WE OWE THEM our CIA owes them and that twelve million has as much right to come here as the IRISH did in 1800s when we needed them to fight our
CIVIL WAR.Be graceful in dealing with the theme of your own BAD MARRIAGE. Never comment on MOM's bad behavior to the daughter. NEVER SHOW A REACTION of upset, pain. Be a blithe spirit in the house or a STOIC spirit. ANYTHING MOM does, wink and say 'thats my girl.' As if this were cute feistiness. MAYBE if MOM gets no reaction from you, then if she is a passive aggresive, she will stop that behavior. To the kid, give understanding by indicating what happened in MOM's childhood that gave Mom a tilt to her character, the behavioral quirk, but don't name it "Mom's BAD TEMPER" or anything like that. And, YOU DO NOT NEED TO SAY I love Mom madly, anyway cuz then you're wimp and a fool, or "I'm only staying here because of YOU..... HER GUILT is not useful and your SAINTHOOD doesn't need a neon sign.
LAST, how to make sure your daughter gets to the BEST LIFE A BEAUTY CAN HAVE? A life long celebration of GIVE A STARVING COUNTRY A FISHING POLE? GET some AUNTIES to give her the Luck in Love training, verbally by sending the Auntie to the WEBSITE. Or send daughter the URL by accident thru someone, but don't you try to do momma's job. MOMMA plainly would use this as a gripe against you. So be oblique. MOM SHOULD read the website. Hey why not? Send MOM to the site. But with her being how she is, if she then advises the kid, the kid would reject it.
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