THE FAIL-PROOF  BROKEN HEART REMEDY

TO HEAL a broken heart, first we should KNOW WHAT A BROKEN HEART really is. It isn't the Dear John letter he emailed or faxed you. This HORRIFIC PAIN you felt when you were dismissed comes from a primordial wound that lives in your heart SINCE the day that YOU WERE BORN. Or in the weeks months that followed your birth.

THE first PRIMORDIAL WOUND was that astonished cry of the INFANT in the nursery, 'Mom, I'm hungry, I'm wet, how can you not come? How can you ignore me?' ---and mom didn't come. Those scars are still there. Like the SCAR from the first loving gaze at mom and your upraised, tiny hand searching for a touch that she didn't give as she didn't observe that raised hand.

That wound is the first time you leaned your cheek against her and went into reverent, loving silence and suddenly at that grand moment, she-who-was-not-looking set you down and walked away. BETRAYAL is SHE-TRAYAL NOT HIM-TRAYAL.

You are loaded with BETRAYAL triggers. This sweetie saying goodbye is just exacerbating some very old, baby feelings in YOU. 'I will die without his/her love.' In the baby's case that's really true and that is a searing knowledge at age one month.

But life is odd, once it has a claw in you, it won't give up. LIGHTNING DOES STRIKE TWICE in the same place! It is certain that  IT WILL.The same evil pain coincidentally shows up with every rejection.

YOU GIVE YOUR HEART TO THE DEAR ONE who carried you to the heights of pink clouds....joy, you surrendered the lock to your heart. AND after a while he or she senses the neediness in you and  SETS YOU DOWN and walks away. You're stuck with that same ole throbbing pain of rejection.

BUT THAT IS JUST THE CENTRAL HEART LAYER. There's another limbic system. IN THE MIND. The response to wound is rage. THE MIND is all ego. IT INTERPRETS everything on a binominal simple, black white either or events. That's the mental hallmark, its terrible logic. THIS WORKED for me, this didn't. THIS WAS REWARD, this punishment. THIS I LIKE, this I hate. HE WAS NICE I LIKE HIM; SHE WAS AWFUL I HATE HER.

THE EGO has interpreted this Sweetie's defection as an insult, a treason, and a LOSS. Your mind can't think things thru from the viewpoint of any BABIES YOU MIGHT HAVE HAD that would be given the same horrid thoughtlessness from him, had he fathered them. SO THE MIND isn't going down the AVENUE of being GLAD you and they escaped that destiny. Which is the third level, the KARMIC DYNAMIC.

RARELY can the mind go the FULL PSYCHOLOGICAL, PHILOSOPHIC KARMIC analysis. Cuz minds are so hasty to REACT. REACTIVE THINKING is black white. Hasty. Limited. It doesn't see the RAINBOWof colorations involved.

To get BEYOND AND BEHIND THE MIND, to get WAY UNDER IT....you may have to read a book on PRIMALING and occasionally lie on the bed and cry your way to those old, long buried baby feelings as that way, you can identify them, recognize them next time they show up! Read HEALING A WOUNDED FRIEND.

Read GESTALT AND PRIMAL articles at the bottom of the page of the HEALING INDEX, in the HEALING THE MIND SECTION. These are two mind techniques to dig deep in the baby feelings and extricate old obsessions or wounds.

Last, Remember the old Chinaman who way up in the mountains, found a wonderful young horse, running wild. He brought it home and gave it to his cherished son.. "Oh  HOW LUCKY you are" the neighbors said, "a valuable wild horse that you tamed and your son rides so well. VERY LUCKY.." "MAYBE lucky" says dad. "Or maybe not. One cannot know."

The horse throws the son, breaks the kid's leg. "OH how unlucky you are" say the neighbors. "MAYBE SO, MAYBE NOT" said the old man.

Now the plot thickens! THE KING sends soldiers to draft all the boys in the region. The boy with the broken leg cannot go to war. "HOW LUCKY you are say the neighbors."

And again, the father says "MAYBE SO, MAYBE NOT." Because we can NEVER KNOW what lucky circumstances hide in horrific things.

So if you look at this pain, your current limitations, lacks, sorrows and study them from the big vantage point in the sky, you may find that the sensitivities caused by current pain or even ancient mistreatment could a.) arrange your life in a better way, b.) lead you to understand men so well that this never happens again and you sidestep some real villain or louse and c.) even lead you to a lucrative career, curing unfeeling people. That is a career by the way. You don't need to go to school for it, just have a natural instinct for the emotional blocks that people have. And a talent for listening to them.  You can combine PRIMALING with massage, doing a rolfing level pressure to get the old memories out of the neural synapses, buried deep in nerve bundles, which is where these memories hide.. To learn how to do EMOTIONAL RELEASE WORK, go to THE HOLISTIC ARCHIVE, scroll down to the bottom of page.  Or read the MASSAGE FILE.

 
MEANWHILE,  be very glad that you live in a time where you are not crucified or stoned (welll maye not that last.....) for your romantic mistakes!
http://www.victorianweb.org/painting/prb/hikim12.html
SEE the above site to see some of the earlier age horrors reserved for
girls whose sin was to love too early, too much or too long... without the support of legal marriage

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